Let him know you are behind him. That he is not alone.
j.j.couey@gigaohmconsulting.com
The condolence note I sent him is below:
Believe it, know it… Act "as if" and you can manifest, with sheer will, that which you need.
My own brother is in the hospital right now having parts of him lopped off because he refused to listen to me. He will die within a cpl years, followed by his wife and my two young nephews. I have seen this before, and see it more and more. I have two best friends, both have dying parents. One has been to three family member funerals this year. It's not my fault, nor is your best friend's passing your fault. Never let your mind go there. There is nothing more you could have done. Nothing would change this. Guilt will not bring them back. These things happen for a reason. Lessons are being given. You either receive them, or ignore them.
God gives each one of us what we need to do the best job we can at whatever it is we are doing. He can be brutal sometimes. You have to understand how to take a beating like that and turn it into fuel. He is not trying to destroy you. He is helping you destroy those that mean to do you and the rest of his children, your friends children, harm; because you can. He didn't take a friend. He gave you a sword.
Because in your hands it would do the most good.
Take time to grieve, but then go out and swing it with the righteous and divine fury of the Lord!
(Know that when you do I will be there at your side, without fear, and proud to be there.)"
-J